Exactly for your child. Therapeutic tales from Semignomochek

Tales about everything They say that the great storyteller Andersen could come up with an amazing story about absolutely everything that caught his eye: from a sewing needle to a leaf on a tree. You can do this too. Try telling fairy tales, making them up as you go. About the old sex

Fairy tales Russian folk tales are a real treasure trove of information for those who are concerned about the early development of their child. Not only the classic “Ryaba Hen” and “Turnip”, but also dozens, hundreds of other fairy tales can teach your child to think, compare, and worry about others.

Fairy tales for food “I don’t want”, “I won’t”, “That’s it, I’ve already eaten”... The baby screams and runs away from the table. “I didn’t like it”, “I want a bun”... The boy declares, busily moving to the floor to roll the cars. How familiar is this picture... Then cartoons, toys and theatrical

Fairy tales Does a child need fairy tales? This issue is still being discussed by educators and educators. Some condemn any fantastic stories on the grounds that children are not yet able to distinguish reality from fiction and magical manifestations in these stories can lead them to

Most likely, children do not get this disease. Perhaps she doesn't even exist. But doctors identify it and prescribe cocktails of dangerous medications.

Two-year-old children are diagnosed with bipolar disorders and prescribed powerful, even deadly psychotropic medications, although the kids are not sick at all. The incidence of these disorders in adolescents and children has increased forty (!) times over the past ten years. We can say that an epidemic of bipolar disorders has begun, and the Pharmaceutical industry added a certain part of the “firewood” to this “cauldron.”

Skills for dealing with fears. Training

how to relax before and during stressful situations;
How to deal with irrational anxious thoughts in a stressful situation.

Basics

Donald Meichenbaum (1977), one of the leading psychotherapists who developed training in fear management skills, argues that the fear response involves the interaction of two main elements: first, psychological arousal, second, thoughts that interpret the situation as threatening or dangerous, adding psychological arousal to emotions of anxiety or fear. The stressful situation itself has virtually nothing to do with your emotional reaction. How you assess danger and how you determine your body's response are the real factors that influence your emotional response. Therefore, the same person experiences delight when jumping with a parachute, but in mortal horror jumps onto a chair as soon as he sees a tiny mouse on the floor.

How to manage anger

After reading this article, you will learn:
how to relieve tension and achieve relaxation in situations that provoke irritation;
how to develop positive affirmations to control irritating conditions;
how to use irritating images to rehearse new skills and inoculate yourself against anger;
how to make plans to deal with the situation that causes anger.

Goal setting and time management

After reading this article, you will learn:
how to determine the limits of multitasking;
how to correctly determine your goals and develop plans to achieve them;
how to determine if you are managing your time correctly;
how to distribute your time and set priorities;
how to deal with procrastination;
how to quickly learn to manage your time.

During childhood, a child listens to fairy tales with pleasure. I remember a huge stack of children’s books that lay on the shelf next to the sofa and every night I read them in turn to my son at night.

The books were thin. Usually one fairy tale - one book. I really liked this format. There were large, bright illustrations with clearly drawn characters, and while I was reading the text, my son was looking at the pictures. One day I noticed that a child took a book, opened it and, looking at the illustration, began to retell the text almost word for word.

I slipped him a book I had not yet read, and looking at the picture, he began to invent a fairy tale. I told it slowly, tried to modulate my voice, as I did when reading, changing the timbre.

Of course, there was nothing in common with what was written in the book. But I was wondering what he would come up with. Two characters were drawn: a fox and a hare. And I thought: “Why did he choose a hare as the main character, although the fox is drawn larger?” And listening further to the tale, I realized that he was not telling this tale about a hare, but about himself. He personifies himself with a hare. He presents the long-eared one as bold, brave and intelligent, who as a result deceives the fox and takes possession of her basket of pies. The written fairy tale was about something completely different: about a cunning little fox and a trusting little bunny.

The next day, I slipped my son two more unread books and asked me to “read” them. The son began to flip through the pages with importance and, looking at the illustrations, composed a plot as he went. Not everything always lined up logically, the story sometimes reached a dead end, but this did not upset the kid at all and, not knowing about any laws of writing, he boldly continued the story.

This went on for several days. First, my son “read” an unfamiliar fairy tale to me, and then I read to him a book that I had already read and re-read more than once. I noticed that all of his main characters are somewhat similar. First of all, by character and actions. At first they appear as unfortunate, offended and oppressed by someone, but then, with the passage of time and certain circumstances, they are reborn into strong and courageous ones. Of course, all Russian children's literature played an important role in this. There were so many fairy tales read about Emel, Ivanushka the fools, Brave little tailors...

Once I asked him which of the characters he invented was his favorite, and he listed for me those who were at first offended and unhappy, and then became winners. This was not without reason.

Two weeks later, while waiting for my son to finish playing war games with the boys on the kindergarten playground, I got into a conversation with his teacher. She was glad that my son finally joined the team, adapted, stopped being embarrassed and staying away.

The son moved to another group, but he knew the children from the new group well from common walks and, nevertheless, it took him a long time to become part of the team.

And in the evening, out of habit, settling down on the sofa to read together, for some reason I remembered those bunnies, squirrels, puppies who invariably became the main characters of his fairy tales, although according to the semantic component of the illustrations they could not possibly be leading the narrative.

Perhaps his adaptation to the new kindergarten group was partly helped by the fairy tales that he himself invented. He came up with a pattern that no matter how bad you were now, no matter how bad you were, this is temporary. There will be certain circumstances and your own efforts that will help change the situation in a positive direction.

Any fairy tale involves development and a path from bad to good. This is a classic of the genre. The son learned this well and perhaps he transferred it to real life, realizing that if it’s bad, it cannot go on forever, it will end someday and the circumstances that arise need to be turned with “interest” for yourself.

In fairy tales, the son played out a difficult situation for himself several times: how to transform from a sad and unhappy character into a hero.

Fantasy and writing, it turns out, can influence real life.

Evening has fallen outside the window,
Shaded the colors of the day,
Shrouded the city in a gentle sleep,
The kingdom of Fairy Tales has arrived again...

He will grow wiser in the Fairy Tale
And stronger and kinder in spirit.
After all, the one who loves fairy tales since childhood,
He will never be evil again in life!

We all love fairy tales since childhood. After all, a fairy tale is a treasury of folk wisdom, a set of unwritten rules, norms and laws developed by people andintroduced into fairy tales. For many adults, one of the brightest childhood memories is that they were once read fairy tales. And each of us had our own favorites, which we could listen to an endless number of times. Immersion in a magical world, where it is said that work ennobles a person, where you can create happiness yourself, you just need to make an effort, where goodness is rightfully rewarded.

Since our life is multifaceted, the plots of folk tales are diverse.

Tales about animals, relationships between people and animals

Children under five years old identify themselves with animals and try to be like them. Therefore, these fairy tales best convey life experience to children.

Everyday tales

These tales tell about the vicissitudes of family life, show ways to resolve conflict situations, and talk about little family tricks. These tales are suitable for teenage children.

Scary tales, horror stories.

By living through an alarming situation in a fairy tale, children are relieved of tension and acquire new ways of reacting..

Fairy tales

They carry information about the spiritual development of a person. They are interesting for those over 6-7 years old

The role of fairy tales in a child’s life is very great. A fairy tale for a child is not just a fantasy, but a special reality. It helps to understand the world of human feelings and to master the most important moral concepts. Following the twists and turns of the plot, the little man empathizes with the characters and tries to organize his complex feelings. At the same time, he comprehends the meaning of such concepts as good and evil.
Most fairy tales express the eternal search for happiness. All the exploits of heroes, the miraculous transformations of heroes and the activity of magical assistants are only necessary conditions for achieving it.

Only those who do not stop at any difficulties find happiness.
The very construction of the fairy tale - an expressive opposition of good and evil, images that are understandable in its essence, the dynamics of events that are understandable to a child, the results of various characteristic actions, multiple repetitions - this makes the fairy tale interesting and incredibly exciting for kids.

The imagination of a five-year-old child allows him to perceive fantastic fairy-tale images as real. He loves Santa Claus and expects a New Year's gift from him, is afraid of Baba Yaga and feels sorry for the Little Mermaid. Why does this ability manifest itself so clearly?

Children lack life experience, and they can only solve constantly arising problems using their imagination. They replace children’s lack of knowledge and help them feel confident in our complex, changing world.
Childhood, according to psychologists, is the defining period for the formation of imagination. And the more successfully it develops, the easier the child masters school wisdom.

A fairy tale activates the imagination. Thanks to it, the child’s consciousness is not only enriched with new knowledge and ideas, the main thing arises - a new attitude towards people, events and phenomena.

A distinctive feature of many fairy tales is the element of transformation. It can take the form of the hero’s embodiment in another person, animal or object. It is important that in the process of such transformations the hero, remaining himself, acquires additional qualities: he can dive to the bottom of the sea, soar into the skies like a falcon, prowl through a dense forest like a gray wolf, etc. It is in fairy tales that the child masters the ability to “get used to the world of another person.” This will be very useful in later life.

• Thanks to empathy and sympathy for another person, the ground is created for tolerance, acceptance, pity and love for him. This is how the fear of insecurity and loneliness is overcome.
  The motif of the unity of man and nature plays a special role in fairy tales. Coming to us from time immemorial, the fairy tale reflects the sense of community with nature inherent in people of those ancient times. Therefore, nature in fairy tales often sympathizes with the heroes, protecting and comforting them (an evil witch drowned Alyonushka in a pond, no one noticed, only the flowers began to wither in the garden, the trees began to dry out, and the grasses began to fade). From this merging with nature, love and pity for all living things is born: plants, animals, people.

Through a fairy tale, you can learn about such experiences and thoughts of a child that they themselves are not yet clearly aware of or that children are embarrassed to discuss with adults. For example, you can find out about the child’s attitude towardsparents' divorce. Tell your child how a strong wind caused a nest to fall to the ground, in which three birds were sleeping - dad, mom and chick. The adult birds scattered into different branches. Ask what the chick will do. Most often, children say that the chick will fly to mom or dad, or will call for help, and the parents will fly to it. If a child says that the chick will die from hunger, cold, rain, will remain on the ground, and someone will step on it, then this is a sign of the child’s hidden anxiety and requires special attention and proper conversation with him. You need to find a way out through a fairy tale, figuring out together with your child how to help the chick, saying everything child's anxiety , perhaps involve both parents in the conversation.

If you notice that your child has some kind of emotional problem (for example, he is irritable, rude, capricious or aggressive), then a fairy tale with its characters, their adventures and exploits can help your baby solve this problem. First, we must describe a hero who is similar to a child in age and character, and then tell the fairy tale in such a way that the child can see himself in the main character. Next, you should describe a problematic situation that is similar to the child’s real situation, and attribute all the child’s experiences to the hero. After this, the fairy-tale hero (and with him the child) begins to look for a way out of this situation and, of course, finds it.

Fairy tales are very important in education, as they help to unobtrusively correct children's behavior. For example: a child who likes to lie about trifles should read the fairy tale “The Braggart Hare.” For the frivolous and playful - “The Adventures of Dunno”; It will be useful for a selfish and greedy child to listen to the fairy tale “About the Fisherman and the Fish”; for the timid and timid - the tale of the “Cowardly Hare”, etc. Just don’t explicitly point out the hero’s resemblance to a child—the kid will draw his own conclusions. Just discuss the fairy tale together.

When reading fairy tales, you should adhere to the following rules:

• read fairy tales expressively, taking into account punctuation marks, use intonation (exclamations, surprise, admiration);
• explain the meaning of words that are incomprehensible and unknown to the child;
• discuss the content of the fairy tale together; it will be good if the child tries to retell it;
• answer the questions that the child has after reading the fairy tale.

Fairy tale therapy - This is the process of forming a connection between fairy-tale events and real life. This is the process of transferring fairy-tale meanings into reality. When discussing a fairy tale, the main task is to lead the child to the fact that the phenomena of our life are ambiguous. To do this, you can turn the fairy-tale situation like a crystal and examine its edges. As a rule, the shorter the fairy tale, the more concentrated its meaning.

It’s impossible not to mention the benefitspsychocorrectional tales. Foreign psychologists call them psychotherapeutic stories. As a rule, fairy tale therapy is a process of environmental education and child upbringing. There is no need to “pressure”, there is no need to strain while reading morals to the child. You can simply tell a fairy tale, for example: “Once upon a time there was a girl like you...”. When creating psychocorrectional tales, it is important to know the hidden reason for “bad behavior.” You can simply read these fairy tales to your child without discussing them. By doing this we will give him the opportunity to be alone with himself and think. In any case, the fairy tale sinks into the soul, even if there is no external reaction. If a child does not want to listen to a fairy tale, guessing that it is about him, then we can say that you are simply reading the fairy tale out loud, for yourself. If you wish, you can play out the fairy tale using dolls.

If you decide to invent psychocorrective tales (psychotherapeutic stories) yourself, you can use the following scheme.

• think about the problem that is bothering your child. Try to understand how this situation is perceived from a child's point of view;
• formulate the main idea of ​​the story. What thoughts do you want to convey to your child? What solutions do you want to offer him?
• start a fairy tale by introducing a hero or heroine who has similar problems, fears, anxieties, conflicts;
• mention the strengths and positive traits in which the hero of the fairy tale is similar to your child;
• first describe the problem, the conflict, and then move on to its positive resolution;
• When telling a story, be open to your child. Notice when he is interested in the story and when he is bored. You can determine your reaction to what you read by your facial expression.
• answer your child’s questions and don’t leave them unattended. If you find it difficult to answer, you can ask the child what he himself thinks about this;
• strive for simplicity. Adapt the language you use, your vocabulary to your child’s level, and the length of the story to the degree of stability of his attention;
• do not be embarrassed by your speech clumsiness, and if you discover your mistakes, feel free to correct them, saying, for example: “Oh, I almost forgot...”. The child will correct you with a sympathetic look: “Poor mommy, she can’t even remember the story well.” But this will not reduce their enjoyment of the story or fairy tale, and the benefits of its use.

A fairy tale is one of the most accessible means of the full development of every child. It was, is, and will be so for many, many years. The role of fairy tales in children’s lives should not be underestimated - a correctly selected fairy tale has a positive effect on the child’s emotional state, corrects and improves his behavior, and also develops the child’s self-confidence and abilities.