What is the best way to leave your husband? What to tell children
Meetings, as well as partings, are the norm in our lives. Therefore, if you decide to leave your husband, there is nothing wrong with that. Another question is how to leave your husband painlessly, especially if you have a child or two children.
Is it worth leaving him?
It all depends on the situation. If a man is a tyrant and has mental problems, then you decided to leave absolutely correctly: you should not expose your life and the life of your child to such danger. But everything else is very controversial. So, if he doesn’t know how to make money, but at the same time he is a good person and an excellent family man, then there is no need to separate: the one who knows how to do this should earn money, and this is not necessarily a man.
Before you leave your husband, think about whether there are other ways out of the situation. Here are just a few of the main reasons for separation. But if you have not one, but several at once, you should get a divorce.
- If the husband loves alcohol and drugs;
You should not expose your life and health to danger posed by an inadequate person. In addition, such families usually have no money. - If he constantly cheats;
One-time and accidental betrayal, especially by a man, is forgivable. But if this happens constantly and is done openly, then it is better to leave. This is simply humiliation for a woman! - If he hits;
If he hits once, this is already a reason to leave. Even the worst woman didn't deserve to be beaten! - If he does not provide for the family;
The point here is not that he was unemployed for some time. If the husband, on principle, does not look for a job, or does not give money for the household or for the child, preferring to spend on himself, this is a reason for divorce. If you have two children on your neck, it makes no sense to support a healthy man as well. Believe me, the children will enjoy it more this way. - If he uses psychological violence;
Violence can be physical, sexual, or psychological. Scandals and nagging are the norm in family life. But if it has become part of the system, then it is better to leave. - If love is gone.
This is a very stupid wording. After all, if you treat each other well and both try to compromise and seek balance, love will not go anywhere. Very often love goes away if the husband’s behavior fits the above points.
Just a story from life
“I met my husband as students. Then I didn’t notice that he had mental problems. She soon became pregnant, but Seryozha did not want to acknowledge paternity. Even then I didn’t realize that there was something wrong with him. By the way, he gave me an engagement ring...mine. Although my friends said... And then war came to my city. He showed no desire to work, so in order to save money, we decided to live in the village with his elderly parents. It was then that I realized where I had ended up and what my husband was like. God bless him that he didn’t earn money, but demanded that I feed him by cooking porridge with an ax...
For my birthday, he promised me a ring, using my parents' money. Let's go to the city. He got on my nerves for half a day, choosing a ring, and in the end he bought it...for himself. God be with him, but similar situations happened all the time...
I realized that I wanted a divorce when he threw a phone at me and broke my lip. I lied to his parents that I fell, but my father understood and...didn’t do anything to him. By the way, my attempts to find a job in the village ended in nothing: the young mother is unlikely to be hired anywhere.
Several times I told my mother-in-law that I wanted to leave my husband, but she stopped me: my son needs a dad, and in general, divorce is not good, you have to be wise. By the way, she herself raised three children herself: her husband was constantly on voyages, from his considerable salary he gave no more than a tenth of it, and when he went ashore, he began to drink. He beat both her and the children. But such is the woman’s soul that she endured “for the sake of the children”... So I endured.
I decided to leave when I saw that my husband was watching porn films with BDSM elements in front of his son... I quickly packed my things and my son and went to a nearby big city to visit a friend. Now I’ve found a job, I’m finishing my education... There’s no end to suitors, although my husband said that I’m scary. Now there is a divorce process, and the husband wants to renounce paternity so as not to pay child support. Are you still afraid of divorce?
How to leave correctly
No matter how tired the current situation may be, divorce is always stressful for both the wife and the child. This separation will not be painless. Even if the husband is bad, a sadist and an alcoholic. In this case, the woman experiences pathologies such as codependency or a victim position, which develop into a painful attachment to her husband. And attachment is not good. This is not love or friendship, not passion, but simply a painful feeling. If you have the position of a victim, you should not think that you will find yourself a new husband without sadistic habits or problems with alcohol. They can see victims very well. Therefore, before you leave your husband, try to work on yourself. Maybe your relationship will become better. Or he will go to another victim.
- Think about everything well;
You can also leave for a while. Just think it over and understand within yourself whether you have forgiven your husband. If not, then you can safely leave. Resentment will ruin family life completely. If you were able to truly forgive, then there is no point in leaving. But before the first serious offense. - Tell your husband everything;
Just picking up and running away is stupid. There is no need to make a scandal. Let the conversation be friendly and you be able to maintain friendly relations. Or at least you won’t divide the child and make him a stumbling block. - Notify friends and family that you want to leave;
Who knows, maybe this will be met with hostility by relatives. Especially if they don't know what's going on in your family. They may stop contacting you and even take your husband’s side. Do everything so that relationships with those closest to you do not suffer. - Consult a lawyer;
This is necessary for any woman who has joint property or children from her ex-husband. The lawyer will tell you what surprises there may be, etc. But this is especially necessary if the husband is a tyrant. Surely he will behave differently when he realizes that the law is on your side. And one more thing. After another beating, you can safely contact the police, remove the beating and file a report. And don’t believe his assurances that he beat for the last time. - Understand that you don’t owe him anything;
If he mistreated you and the child, all you have to do is leave him. If something doesn’t suit you and he doesn’t try to change anything, you can leave too. You have one life and you must be happy and make your child happy. How many days ago did you enjoy something? Don't remember? Well, you can’t do without this. And one more thing. The man will not change or improve. Don't wait.
How to explain to a child
Before you decide to leave your husband, think about whether you can raise him on your own and think about what you will tell your son or daughter about your decision. If he is small, then most likely he will be bored at first, and then come to terms with it. There is no need to explain anything to the baby, much less throw mud at the father. If there is a mutual desire between dad and child, give them the opportunity to communicate.
It's harder with teenagers. They may be hostile to your decision. But try to explain that perhaps both his life and yours are at risk. In the case of teenagers, it just takes time. Someday he will understand you and forgive you if there was any offense. In general, if it’s a secret, then almost everyone has a grudge against their mother, and this cannot be avoided. Forgiving and getting rid of this is the task of a mature person. But in any case, do not be afraid to contact a psychologist, because your decision can negatively affect the entire personal life of the child in adulthood.
How to leave if life, an apartment, a common cause does not allow?
Get rid of the fear of being left without your usual comfort, housing or security. Nothing in this world belongs to us. Moreover, all this is acquired. If the property was yours before marriage, you have the right to it in full; if not, leave your husband alone with his home, things, etc.
Here it is important not to go nowhere, but to think in advance where exactly you will live. If you have nowhere to go, then wait. This does not apply only to cases when your life (and the life of a child) is under threat. Think about how you will support your child while the trial is going on. You can find an extra job and send your child to kindergarten. If you have a joint business, then it is best to maintain business and friendly relations with your ex. You are no longer family, but just partners.
How to start a new life
You've already made this decision. Now you need to start living again. First of all, understand that you and your child are not an incomplete family, but a complete one. And secondly, do not isolate yourself and the walls of your home. Go out, communicate with friends and family, live, definitely try something new. Or something I’ve already forgotten about. Yes, it's all painful, but not fatal. Love will still meet, and you have thrown off a burden from your neck (even good men can be one). Don't be afraid of loneliness and increase your self-esteem.
Be sure to program yourself for happiness. The new life will be happier, everything will work out for you and your baby, and everything will be fine. Finally, you can live for yourself.
All of the above does not apply to the case when you leave for someone else. Here there will be trauma for the husband himself. Perhaps you have a long-term affair, during which you lied to your other half. Of course, you can’t command your heart, but it’s still a betrayal, which is not good on your part. Here, be prepared for a negative reaction from your husband and loved ones. In our time, female infidelity is viewed negatively. Be stronger, but this is also your life and your decision. Stand up for him.
Divorce and separation from a man are not the end of life. Yes, you feel sorry for him, but think about whether he is worthy of your pity. If you can no longer live with him, you should leave and become free, and not torture yourself and your child.
This problem is relevant for our country. Many women suffer in marriage precisely because their husbands are tyrants. It would seem that this is a very loud accusation, but no, those who have fallen under such a “yoke” can hardly get out and breathe deeply the air of freedom. The worst thing is that women often endure until the last moment, when they no longer have the strength, they still hope and believe that everything will change soon. But this “soon” is not coming, and will it come at all?
Awareness
At a certain point, the cup of patience is overflowing and the woman realizes that living like this is unbearable and her emotional state is much more important than the illusory hope of better times. But a tyrant husband may not only not respect her, but even beat and humiliate her. And it’s sad that women are getting used to the idea that there will be no other fate. They tolerate all the antics of their spouse, even pity and justify him. However, what can we say? Slavic women have always been compassionate. When it reaches the boiling point, the ladies realize: “It’s time to leave!” It’s time to just run like crazy.” But what about the children? In part, women feel sorry for themselves and their children: not everyone is ready to deprive themselves of their breadwinner, but of their children’s father. But every day these thoughts melt away under the pressure of bullying and suffering. How to leave your husband? It's a tough question. Among other things, women are stopped by the thought that they have nowhere to go. For example, you will have to rent an apartment on your own or go to your relatives. But there is not always the opportunity and means for this.
What to do?
How to leave a man who causes a lot of pain? When you are already tired of eternal scandals, tears in your pillow, hysterics and an unbearable life, and cruel antics do not give you peace, you need to make up your mind and put an end to it. Especially if the spouses have nothing in common, for example, the couple has not yet become parents. You need to gain strength and decisively change your life, otherwise you can waste years. Even if there are children, it is still better to protect them from parental quarrels and scandals. And the sooner this is done, the better.
Doubts and how to overcome them?
Before deciding to take such a radical step, you need to reconsider your attitude towards life. You need to love yourself, because a woman, living with her tyrant husband under the same roof, gradually dissolves as a person. And this should not be allowed: “self-destruction” affects health, appearance and the general tone of life.
How to leave a tyrant husband painlessly?
The woman has already realized that the boiling point has come and she can no longer endure it. It is in moments like these that firm confidence emerges. But it’s better not to “cut in the heat of the moment,” since all serious steps are recommended to be taken with a “cool head,” and not in a fit of passion or bitterness. When a woman has cooled down, it is important to realize that her determination has not disappeared. But how to leave your husband if you have a child? Don't ask questions. We need to act. This decision must be balanced and deliberate. Finding a new man is not a problem, but finding a father is difficult. But is it worth further putting your life in danger? Help from friends and family
There is no need to be shy and hide all the pain in yourself. At such moments, the support of family and friends is extremely important. They will be able to support you and will not let you lose heart before an important step. You should not isolate yourself, as accumulated grievances and experiences can play a cruel joke. It is important to go through the crisis period as calmly as possible, so that the decisive step towards your bright future is joyful and not sad.
It is important to speak out and then it will be much easier to do when the stone falls from your soul. Psychologists also recommend writing farewell letters to your spouse, but not giving them to him. Why are letters plural? It is necessary to describe in one place all the hardships and experiences associated with living together. In it you can express everything that gnaws at a woman and gives her no rest. And in the second: describe the positive moments that lie ahead. By comparing the two letters, it will be easier to make a decision. And then the question will no longer be relevant: “How can you decide to leave your husband?” Another one will appear: “How to build a new life, taking into account mistakes?”
Since it is difficult to predict the reaction of a tyrant husband when a woman packs her things, it is better to think about another option, for example, leaving when he is at work. This will stun your spouse and save you from unnecessary scandals with stress and quarrels.
Alcohol and family. How to leave an alcoholic husband?
This is the plague of our age. Men often drink because they could not find a worthy use for themselves in life, for example, they failed to make a career and self-realization. But you can’t constantly feel sorry for a husband who just drinks every day and blames anyone for all his troubles, but not himself. And, as you know, alcohol is not the best “friend”. And a lot of troubles happen precisely because of intoxication: men beat their wives, shout at children, rowdy and rowdy.
Learning to live without a tyrant husband
When a woman was able to overcome herself and left her tyrant husband, you can immediately notice changes in her appearance. Ladies become blooming and alive, because nothing depresses them anymore. Often they find a hobby they like or become lost in the children, who can now sleep peacefully and know that no one will cause any more harm!
Keep at it and everything will work out!
Unfortunately, it often happens that after living together for many years, you suddenly realize that you and your husband are complete strangers. For some reason, quarrels, resentments, misunderstandings of each other became more frequent, and then reproaches and omissions appeared. You catch yourself thinking that you don’t know this person at all, that your views on life are completely different, there are practically no common topics for conversation, and if modest attempts to talk slip through, then it all comes down to platitudes, like: “How was your day?” How is it at work? What's new? Here is, perhaps, the most complete and accurate list of conversation topics for lately. For some reason, you began to spend the rest of the time apart, some reading a book, some watching TV; to put it more precisely, you began to look more like neighbors than a family.Such cases are not at all rare, in recent years there are more and more of them. Many have come to terms with this; they are probably quite happy with this existence. No one is bothering anyone, everyone has their own interests, the family hearth is increasingly reminiscent of a communal apartment, where everyone seems to be together, but at the same time apart. But what should those who are annoyed by this state of affairs do? Tolerate and put up with this further? Or take a risk and cross it all out once and for all?
If this happened to you, this is not the first time you have thought that this cannot continue, that something needs to be changed, then it’s time to act. If you have a desire to fix everything, and there is hope that feelings can be renewed, returned, well, you can try, because without trying, you will then reproach yourself for indecisiveness. And if you tried and there was zero result or you no longer have the strength or desire to try to glue something that doesn’t stick together, you need to realize once and for all that it’s time for you to part ways. A completely logical question arises: “How to leave my husband?”
Many women are very afraid of this step, because they will have to get used to a new and unusual state of affairs, learn to be responsible for themselves, not wait for support and protection behind their backs, but rely only on themselves. Well, it's really not easy, but it's not that difficult, you'll get the hang of it pretty quickly. You should not delay the divorce indefinitely, because nothing will change on its own, and time does not stand still, life does not tolerate downtime. You need to clearly understand that at this stage this is the best way out, by doing this you will change the course of your life in a new, better direction.
But the most difficult thing is usually to decide to voice your decision to your husband. In this case, you can simply offer to talk calmly, without making a scandal or insulting each other. If the attempt is successful, during the conversation you will find out the reasons why you are making this decision. Don’t forget that in such cases both parties are guilty, don’t put all the blame on your husband, but don’t take everything on yourself either, this won’t lead to anything good. It is likely that you both realize the inevitability of what is happening, understand each other and part as friends; this happens, although it is extremely rare. If you still can’t get your spouse to have a calm conversation, your significant other ignores all your arguments, if they start openly insulting you and even threatening you, well, there is also a way out. Pack your things, since living with such a person after voicing your decision to leave can be dangerous, and try to meet with him as necessary only in the presence of friends or family, or even better, a lawyer who will handle the divorce process. In this case, you will protect yourself from insults and infringement of your rights, you will be able to calmly observe what is happening, and you will also increase your confidence. Let a person competent in this regard take care of the matter, he will tell you how to leave your husband and make sure that everything goes as least painfully for you.
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Each woman who left her husband has her own story about how a quiet family haven turned into a torture chamber. Some people found it unbearable to endure unbearable boredom in prosaic, hopelessly cold relationships. And some were fleeing from a domestic despot.
Women leave their husbands, breaking through the reproachful murmur of relatives, gossip from neighbors, remorse, through the fear of ending up with an empty wallet and without a roof over their heads. A breakup, even if you strive for it, is still accompanied by anxiety and mental stress.
How to leave a tyrant husband or Run from a despot secretly
It is vital for a tyrant to subjugate his wife by force. Moreover, he often shows himself to be so reliable, faithful, and economical - not a husband, but a dream! But then, he said a couple of barbs about your friends, said something sarcastic about your work, got angry at the cold lunch or the shirt not being served on time: “How come you haven’t ironed this yet?!” Your attempts to justify yourself irritate him, and indignation at your insolence awakens the beast in him. He moves from poisonous words to action. First he will roughly push you, burn you with a slap in the face, and then he may forcefully kick you in the stomach or hit you on the head. And if you don’t have a black belt in karate and don’t master the technique of hypnosis, there is only one thing left to do - run.
How to properly leave the satrap? Experts recommend not to do this demonstratively. Prepare for leaving in advance: open a bank account and replenish it regularly, collect documents, make copies of general papers, find a suitable lawyer in case of litigation. Find an apartment. Pack and send your belongings by freight mail, or order a car for the move. Clean out the folders on your computer. Enlist the support of family and friends. If you haven’t worked, find a job, agree to a temporary one for now.
Leave when he's not home. At the threshold, you finally realize that you will never return. After you move, tell your husband by phone that you are filing for divorce. Don’t tremble if he starts to rage, and don’t be touched if he begs to return. If you hear threats against you, report it to the police.
Don't try to turn back time. Neither your regret about past or apparent family happiness, nor attempts to change your spouse, nor your perseverance will break the situation. You are a gentle fragile woman, not a superhero.
How to leave an alcoholic husband or Don't quarrel with a drunkard
It is impossible to live with an alcoholic. Wait until after midnight and then endure drunken antics. Difficulty getting to sleep. Choking, sobbing in the bathroom, with the tap turned off so that the neighbors wouldn’t hear. Drop valerian into a glass. How long can you stand this kind of life?
Alcohol, like a witch's potion, replaces a person: it makes him warlike, suspicious, rude. Passion for a glass replaces love for wife and children and kills intellect. A woman forced to vigilantly control the life of her husband falls into the trap of codependency. She, too, experiences a transformation: from a smart, cheerful beauty into a frightened and tired slave. And if the husband does not make a decisive choice between the family and the bottle, the woman has only one choice - take the children and leave.
Don't make a scandal, don't blame or reproach. This is pointless and dangerous - they can easily answer you with their fists. Take the necessary things and documents, move to your parents, girlfriend or rented apartment. Understand that a new life is beginning and follow its rules. Don’t be sad about what happened, breathe in the air of freedom deeply.
How to leave your husband if you have a child, or Keep your children from crying
The fate of a single mother does not seduce a woman, so children sometimes tie her tightly to an unhappy marriage. “Children need a father!” - the poor thing repeats and continues to bend under the weight of fear and despair.
Experts are unanimous on this issue: if it is not possible to build full-fledged healthy relationships in the family, it is better to separate and not torment the psyche of a child who, at any age, perfectly feels and understands that there is a war going on in the house.
Discuss the child issue with your husband. Who will the child stay with, when and where can you meet him, what child support should you pay? If you do not agree, the problem will be decided by the court.
File a claim to determine the child’s place of residence or to participate in his upbringing.
Remember that the tactics of behavior during a divorce determine the future of the child - his physical and mental health.
Children should be told about the fact of divorce honestly and without strong emotions. Don't let your bitterness spill out on your son or daughter. Explain that dad is moving, but will visit you. Don’t broadcast your failure into your child’s future family life. It’s better to say: “Dad and I didn’t work out, but when you grow up, everything will be much better!”
Under no circumstances create an image of a monster father in your child’s thoughts. Psychologists say that a correct, positive fatherly image is very important for a stable inner core in a child’s character.
How to leave your husband if you have nowhere to go
Optimists say that there is always somewhere to go. Some managed to find refuge even when they found themselves in a foreign country.
So, you have decided to leave your husband. Sit down and think about what your options are. Is there really nowhere to go? What about parents, relatives, friends? Maybe they will shelter you and your child if you have not yet managed to prepare your rear.
In every city there are crisis centers for women, which not only provide a roof over their heads for a while, but also help them find work.
Most likely, you will then have to rent a house. It’s good if, in preparation for leaving, you saved money on a bank card or account.
If you don’t have enough money, try to find a woman in a similar situation and agree to rent an apartment together. Websites, newspapers, bulletin boards are at your service.
Finally, there is always the opportunity to move to where housing is much cheaper: to a remote area, to a village.
Maybe you have the right to part of the apartment you live in? For example, if the apartment is jointly owned with your husband, you can divide it by court order and sell your part in order to purchase or rent square meters for yourself.
How to leave your husband without a scandal: peaceful negotiations
You can leave in different ways: by slamming the door or in English, without saying goodbye, by having a detailed heart-to-heart talk, or by officially demanding a divorce and division of property.
Parting without scandals is the privilege of the sensible. If the decision has been made, there is no need to leave yourself and your partner any loopholes in the past, and therefore arguments and hysterics are not appropriate.
Calmly tell your husband that you are filing for divorce. Let him know about your claims to the property. If you have children, discuss the issue of custody and child support. Do not panic if you hear threats, and do not be fooled by persuasion. Do not get into a fight under any circumstances; it is better to leave the battlefield immediately.
How to leave your husband if you love him
He started an affair on the side, neglects you, and has become cold and harsh. And you still love him. You love to the point of spasms, to the point of dizziness. You are afraid that he is about to announce that he has decided to break up with you. And you want this to happen, because you can’t live like this any longer – it’s painful, it’s painful. What if you can’t live with him and can’t live without him?
Both scales are full of suffering: on one - the grief of betrayal, on the other - the sadness of loneliness. And yet, choose which one is easier. Will you get over the separation and rise to a new level, or will you quietly go crazy from hopelessness and humiliation?
Divorce is, of course, a stressful situation; it will take time for the mental wound to heal. They say that severe pain lasts no more than forty days, followed by months of worry, and after a year only slight sadness remains.
After leaving your husband, stop contact with him, but do not forbid him to see the child.
Give yourself permission to live life to the fullest. Sometimes our attachment to a person is a desire to share with him or even transfer to him power over our lives. By breaking off a relationship, you take the reins into your own hands - you set goals, bear responsibility and solve life’s puzzles.
If life with a man under the same roof has become unbearable, you need to leave. Psychologists do not recommend thinking about who is to blame. In such a situation, it is more reasonable to think about how to leave your husband. Statistics show that it can take quite a long time from the first thought to end a relationship to actual action. Don't try to do this in one evening - such behavior can lead to serious consequences. First you need to understand whether a break is really necessary. Talk to your husband about the problems that have accumulated. If you understand that he does not want to correct the situation, moreover, he beats you or humiliates you, you do not need to stay with him.
Significant reasons for divorce
There are several circumstances when the decision to end a relationship is reasonable and even necessary.
- The husband drinks or uses drugs. Living with an addict, a woman puts her mental and physical health at risk. Under the influence of alcohol or drugs, a man often becomes aggressive, becomes uncontrollable and can harm his wife and children.
- My husband is constantly cheating. For the sake of preserving the family, many women forgive accidental infidelity. But if the spouse cheats constantly and does not even hide it, such behavior can only be tolerated in the absence of self-respect and pride.
- My husband hits me. A woman should not tolerate beatings; if your husband raises his hand once, he will beat you constantly. The only way out is to end the relationship.
- The husband does not want to provide for the family. If he does not work and does not try to find income, blaming all problems on his wife, it is better to end the relationship. A woman is not obliged to support a healthy man.
- Lack of love. If you understand that you don’t love your spouse and don’t want to share a bed with him, you shouldn’t pretend to be love and passion.
Regardless of the reasons, the decision to leave your husband requires the right tactics of behavior. This will allow you not to regret what you did and make the separation less painful for everyone.
How to decide to break up a relationship
Very often, women stay married out of pity. And this is a big mistake. You don’t have to endure beatings, humiliation or indifference, even if you are sure that your husband is not capable of living alone. This is your life and you shouldn't waste it. Think about the time you live with your unloved husband that you could spend happily with another partner.
If you are thinking about how to leave your husband, first resolve financial issues. If you are completely dependent on your husband’s income, find some income for yourself so that you can ensure your livelihood. Open a credit card for the worst cases. Learn to plan your purchases; you may have to rent a home and have to give up many purchases.
Child and divorce
If there are children in the family, you will have to get a divorce through the court. It is better to resolve the issue of alimony in advance - consult a lawyer and draw up a mutual agreement. If the spouse does not want to sign it, submit an application for alimony along with the claim for divorce.
If you are pregnant and decide to divorce your husband, do not torment yourself with doubts. The possibility of becoming a single mother frightens any girl. But you shouldn’t endure humiliating treatment because of this. Enlist the support of loved ones and family. When the child grows up, speak respectfully about the father and do not insult him.
How to leave an alcoholic or tyrant
If your husband beats you, and you are simply afraid to leave him, after the next blows, go to the emergency room and record the fact of the beating. When you tell your spouse about your desire to get a divorce, he will most likely begin to threaten you with violence. Say that you will contact the police and attach a report of the beating. His resolve will disappear.
When a husband drinks, the decision to leave him should be immediate. Don't try to fight a bad habit. Pack up all your valuables and move anywhere - to your parents, friends, to a hotel. A person suffering from any form of addiction is unpredictable and capable of anything.
Look for support in your family, don’t worry about everything within yourself. It is important to go through a difficult period as calmly as possible. Psychologists recommend speaking out. You can write letters to your spouse, but not send them. In them you will describe everything that you had to face, how difficult it was for you. Be sure to write a positive letter, remembering the good times. Comparison will help you make a decision easier.
The decision to leave your husband must be deliberate and conscious. Do not give in to your first emotions, otherwise you will regret what you did in the future. It should be understood that separation is a serious step.
Talk to your husband, telling him about your intention to separate. The conversation should take place in calm, friendly tones. It is much easier to survive a divorce if you maintain friendly relations with your husband, especially when there are children in the family.
Tell close friends and relatives about your upcoming divorce and its reasons. Very often, a woman who wants to leave her husband faces misunderstanding and condemnation from others. If no one knows what is going on in your family, your decision may be perceived negatively, up to and including the complete cessation of all relationships.
Overcome fear and make plans for the future. Many women are afraid of divorce because they think that they will not be able to cope without their husband’s financial help and raise their children on their own. In this case, it is important to believe in yourself and know that any situation can be resolved.
A positive attitude is important for you to do well. Think of divorce as the beginning of a new, happy life. The power of thought is miraculous. The stronger and sincerely you believe that happiness will definitely happen, the faster it will happen.