How to reconcile with your husband after a quarrel?

A scandal with a loved one? They quarreled, said too much, strongly offended each other. The case after a quarrel goes to divorce.

But there are children in the family, and maybe already grandchildren. What to do, how to make peace with your husband?

There are proven methods. The main thing is not to drag out the conflict, to find the right approaches. Many women believe that it is better to hush up a quarrel: the negative will be forgotten and left. But bad emotions tend to accumulate over time.

And a small, insignificant quarrel can develop into a serious conflict, which will lead to a divorce.

To avoid this, do not let everything take its course. How to act correctly?

Calculate the reason for the quarrel: admit your guilt, if any, understand your husband, even if he is wrong.
Write a plan of action: detailed, in detail every step.
Proceed to its implementation: confidently and with the hope of saving the family.

How to make peace with your husband if he does not make contact?

The man does not want to communicate. He does not want to be the first to put up after a quarrel. This is a common situation. I'm right - says the head of the family. Not going to apologize. Stubbornness presses. A woman must immediately seek ways of reconciliation.

The first to apologize, even if it's not your fault? No. Psychologists advise to be patient. A man decides that he can not show respect for his wife, since she does not respect herself.

A pause after a quarrel, a dinner for friends, common household duties, children, a joint analysis of the situation is a good (and not the last!) Way to push a man to contact and start reconciliation.

How to reconcile with my husband if I am to blame?

The initiator of the scandal is often a woman. Reasons? Don't count them. Didn't get paid at the appointed time. Didn't buy a coat. Didn't bring flowers. I forgot to congratulate you on your wedding anniversary. Rude mother-in-law. Late from work. Didn't call. Didn't hug. Didn't kiss. I got jealous. Changed…

The feeling of guilt is gnawing. Ashamed. Repent before him. Pride says - do not go, he loves, forgives. Perhaps there is a grain of truth in this. Then let him calm down, rethink the situation. Without cooling down, he can provoke a new scandal. And you will do new stupid things with him.

But how to make amends? After all, it must be done! Tightening is like death. A day or two, he will lose the habit, he can switch to another object, say, in retaliation. So, to explain, to apologize - you can’t get away from this. How?! A few actionable solutions will help to establish contact.

mother-in-law. Find a reason. Arrange a trip to your mother. This will pave the way for solid ground for reconciliation. Rarely visit your mother-in-law, does she not favor you? Not scary. Call before the trip, do not openly report a spat. Ask about her health, maybe she needs food, medicines to bring, help with the housework, in the garden. Prepare her favorite dish, take her with her husband. Upon arrival, do not rush into the woman's arms, but do something nice. It is better if you have a warm relationship with your mother-in-law. So tell in advance about the quarrel, ask for help, together make a plan to save the family.
Children. They need to be taken, taken to school, picked up from there, learn lessons, take them to the zoo - another reason for communication. With a son-daughter, a loving father will not be impudent, answering questions and requests with silence.
Family friends. Find an urgent reason, meet with them, inform about the impending divorce. Faithful comrades will help to make peace! Invite them to a barbecue, to a party, make a plan of action together.
Delicious meal. Buy his favorite foods, drinks. Are caviar, elite dishes, vintage cognac expensive? Don't be stingy! Connect other ways. Put on your best clothes, put on nice makeup, use his favorite perfume, put on music that he likes, decorate the table by putting a present next to the plate of your favorite. Success is guaranteed.
What else? You can recall the joint shopping trips - no one has canceled them. Let him arrange walks with children or a pet (if any). Fulfill his dream - buy a dog-cat-fish-hamster, a fishing rod, a smartphone, a fashionable suit, luxurious toilet water.
Don't give reasons for jealousy. Don't annoy your spouse. Don't mention the reason for the scandal. A couple of preliminary calls (no fawning!). A few words that usually drive him crazy. A touch of intimacy, languor in your voice ... Give him what he lacked before, what he needs now, after a quarrel. Works! But do not explicitly - it will scare away, alert.
Calmed down? Do not rush to start a dialogue. Make it clear that the guilt is realized, the conclusions are drawn. The conversation can be continued when the man is complacent. Don't rush him.

How to make peace with your husband if he is guilty?

Husbands also give reasons for scandal. They do not want to put up, even if they are guilty on a grand scale. What to do, how to make your husband reconcile? There is a way out in this situation. It is important to follow the sequence of actions developed taking into account the moment, the nature of the man, his capabilities.

Don't blame. At stake is the family, the future of children. We need sacrifice, concession. Approach not enough courage? Get over your fears. After a quarrel, it is dangerous to delay a pause with a long silence. We need a conversation. But don't be harsh, don't blame. It is worth tactfully explaining the wrong of the offender.
A conciliatory conversation should not hurt the pride of the spouse - the truce will quickly develop into a new quarrel. Especially if he decided to finally leave.
Wait it out. Is it leaving quickly? Wait a moment. He himself will begin to blame and put up. But do not ask for forgiveness - nothing. Especially if the guilt is recognized by him, the conclusions are drawn.
Make jealous. Guilty, hot-tempered, does not make contact? Yes, sometimes. If he is seriously at fault (say, he flirted or, even worse, cheated), cause jealousy. How? Easily. Change your style, hairstyle, buy new clothes (not to the detriment of your family!). Be late from work. Talk more on the phone. "Get lost" for a while. Pretend you're texting on social media. Loves? You will feel - he will start to fuss. But don't overdo it! If he has begun to take an interest in you, this is the first step towards a truce. Take advantage of the moment.
Invite guests. Knowing when your spouse will be at home, call family friends. Bake pies, gather your parents at the table. A conversation in such a circle will help to understand the narrowed wrong. Especially if the guests help in this.
Before such manipulations, you can take a few more steps. Try to forget the fight. Talk to your spouse about emotions out loud. Exhale. And then, if everything works out as planned, kiss and gently hug!

We constantly quarrel: how not to bring a quarrel to a divorce

Peace does not exist and is not expected. Husband is talking about divorce. However, words can be spoken spontaneously, thoughtlessly. Try doing this:

Do not rush to lose heart - focus, because everything is fixable.
Control yourself - an angry woman looks terrible, and will not resolve the situation.
Do not threaten with a divorce - a man is also not iron, someday he will say, they say, well, get a divorce.
Don't expect an immediate response - he needs to cool down, focus, make a decision.
Do not argue - it is useless, it will only make him angry; only harmony and peace will save here.
Do not tell anyone about the scandal - other people's advice (girlfriends, neighbors, colleagues) has not helped anyone yet, on the contrary, they have harmed many.
Do not complain about your spouse - everyone will start to treat him worse. How will you look into the eyes of him and those to whom you complained after reconciliation?
What else? Don't lose it, always keep the thread, don't break it! For this:
Communicate constantly, call each other and write messages when you are not together.
Reminisce about significant moments in your marriage: first date, first vacation together, etc.
Spend more time together - get out to cafes, theaters, exhibitions, visits.
Scroll through family albums more often.
Confess sometimes (but unobtrusively!) feelings.
Respect the freedom of man!
Learn to forgive.
Discuss controversial points with your loved one.
Finally, walk past him more often (to remember your smell), touch your arm, shoulder, back, face (memories of intimacy will bring feelings back!) - this is a proven way.

Use correctly, timely, analyze other methods:

Phone apology. You can also try. But, as experience shows, not always a good idea. Husband doesn't want to talk. If you insist on a conversation, you can afford harshness, words that will be difficult to refuse and that will further aggravate the conflict.

SMS for reconciliation. Works. After a strong quarrel, the darling does not want to talk. Therefore, it is easier to put up in this way - without seeing your soulmate, say the words of reconciliation. What to write? Depends on the situation. Sincerely express regret about the quarrel if you are at fault. Talk about reconciliation. Hint about your love for him, about how you missed him. Was he guilty? Ask in SMS if you miss your beloved wife, if you are ready for a dialogue. Offer peace. But don't force yourself.
Reconciliation conspiracy. Has not helped anyone yet - time-tested and many couples!
Prayer from quarrels and scandals in the family. Are you a believer? Go to the temple, talk to the priest, light a candle, give a note to the altar, pray at home in your own words, so that the Lord would deign to reconcile with her husband. There are special prayers for quarrels and scandals in the family.

What you need to do to reconcile with your husband after a strong quarrel:

do not relax, dropping hands,
do not hesitate to ask for forgiveness, sincerely admitting mistakes,
wait, and try again to reconcile,
resort to intimate relationships (but a conversation is still needed),
prevent possible misunderstanding,
learn to control yourself (especially during quarrels),
be affectionate and gentle, and not pull the "blanket" over yourself,
Treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated.

Go to a meeting

Over the years, spouses will learn to forgive, put up. A reasonable person is not one who cherishes his pride, but one who knows how to give in on trifles in order to achieve something more significant later. For example, harmony in relationships.

And then, you have studied your chosen one best of all. Therefore, you should be well aware of how to find the key to reconciliation. Remembering at the same time that delaying with a conversation, hugs is more expensive for yourself. And then suddenly, once, and feel in a couple of days - a stranger is nearby ...