How do men really fall in love?

I don't remember the first time my boyfriend told me he was in love. But I remember one special day when we met for about six months. Then he came up to me, looked deeply into my eyes, pressed me to him and whispered: "I think I'm really in love with you."

I laughed because he had told me for a long time that he loved me, just like I loved him. "What do you mean? I asked incredulously. - I already know that you love me. And I love you".

But he tried to explain: maybe he said he loved, but now he really understood that he fell in love on a deeper level. What the hell does that mean?

It turns out science has the answer. According to some studies, men even fall in love faster than women. So the statement that we rush into the pool with our heads and imagine a wedding already on the first date is not true.

A 2010 study published in the Journal of Social Psychology found that not only do men fall in love faster, they also say "I love you" earlier. These are the results of opinion polls, and although they are unexpected, this only confirms that men also want love and relationships.

When a man falls in love, his brain is filled with pleasant substances: dopamine, norepinephrine, phenylethylamine, oxytocin and testosterone. A man in love is under the influence of these strong hormones, which are produced in response to a woman's pheromones - substances that she emits to attract partners.

The reason why men fall in love faster is evolution.

“I think women unknowingly delay love, unlike men,” says study author Marissa Harrison, a psychologist. - After all, a woman will lose more in a reproductive sense if she thoughtlessly chooses the wrong man. She was born with a limited number of eggs, while a man produces millions of sperm every day.”

In other words, a woman has to be more careful in choosing a partner.

“If a woman chooses the wrong partner who will not help her with the child, then this will be a great waste of time and resources for her.”

But here's another point: although men fall in love faster, they stop loving faster. All because they tend to stare at others. After all, evolutionarily they are hunters. While the woman sits at home and raises the child, they continue to walk and look for prey.

In addition, some psychologists believe that a man says “I love you” faster because of his willingness to take risks.

But how can you turn this first quick love into serious long-term feelings?

Scientists say a combination of several factors is important. One of them is great sex. Even on a physical level. When a person experiences an orgasm, they get a surge of oxytocin and vasopressin. These are the hormones that are responsible for attachment.

Another factor is creating deep, intimate relationships. Men need to feel supported and understood. They need a woman they can trust and respect, with whom they can laugh together.

So when my boyfriend told me that he really fell in love with me, apparently, this is a good sign - it means that his first feelings did not disappear, but grow into something more