A touching letter to a loved one. How to write a farewell letter to your husband after separation

A farewell letter to your husband is a rather difficult thing. First of all, it is difficult for a woman to decide to write it. But if such a decision was made, then it is also necessary to figure out what exactly should be contained in this letter. In fact, in such a message you can write everything that has accumulated in your soul, except, of course, accusations and insults. The letter, if sent, must contain memories of happiness. past days and a note of sadness that they will never happen again.

Why write a letter to your spouse and then not send it? In fact, the answer to this question is simple and banal. The fact is that many psychologists argue that, having expressed their thoughts on a piece of paper, the whole situation that has developed in currently may clear up.

Imagine the situation: you are madly in love with your spouse, who, in addition to loving you, also unconditionally loves his mother. The latter, for some unknown reason, did not accept you as the lady of the heart of her beloved son, but lives with you in the same living space. The situation has escalated to such an extent that it is no longer possible to endure. The time has come for clear action. Frankly, this is the most decisive action in the current situation would have to be taken by your spouse. But he is so subservient to his mother that he decides to sharp turn in his life, was simply not able to. Your nerves also could not stand it, and, despite the love for your husband, you decided to leave him. Based on this situation, we offer you a version of a farewell letter.

Be that as it may, it is much easier to write farewell words to your husband on a piece of paper than to say them to his face.

sample farewell letter to husband

We present to your attention a sample farewell letter that you could write to your husband if the situation is as described above.

"Next to you, I always felt myself happy woman all over the world. I remember every moment of my life associated with you. I will never forget everything we went through together. But the time has come when we have to say goodbye to you.

Do not think that you are to blame for something. In you, as before, everything is fine. Wonderful enough that you've become too good for me. Your laughter, eyes, smile and gentle touches will forever remain in my heart. I don't even need to look at a photo of you to remember them.

I am writing this letter with tears in my eyes even though I try not to cry. Therefore, if some letters in my message are smeared, do not pay attention, because it is really very difficult for me to write it. Just try to understand what I'm trying to tell you behind my words and tears.

I don't want to shed a tear, honestly! But I simply cannot do otherwise, because tears heal me and help me understand what is going on in my soul. I finally realized that I don't love you anymore. And I would really like it to be true. But it's not. I love you with all my heart, with every cell of my body, which is saturated with you from fingertips to hair roots.

However, we can no longer be a family for a second. And all because our paths parted with you, like ships at sea. I constantly reassure myself that soon all the pain will pass, and we will both be much better than we are now. But whether it will, I don't know yet. I don’t know, because thanks to fate, it was you who appeared once in my life. It was you who made me happy. It was you who felt what I needed. I was happy with you. With you I felt real woman. With you, I bloomed like the most beautiful flower in the world.

Forgive me, my love, for hurting you. I'm sorry for leaving you. I don't know how I had the strength to make such a decision. But I know for sure that one person will be happy with it. And that person is your mother. After all, it was she who always saw a woman completely opposite to me next to you. She believed that you would be truly happy with her, but never with me.

Think no good of me. Think only of the bad. This will help you quickly forget me and meet the woman with whom you will feel good, and your mother will be satisfied. My dear, believe me, I still love you madly. I remember and appreciate every moment spent with you together. And you? If yes, then just try to understand me and let go. Only in this way all experiences will soon pass, and you will be able to improve your personal life.

Vitya!
You're right that you don't want to continue our relationship. I really don't fit your ideal. You deserve much better than me. I'm sorry I didn't spend enough time with you. Forgive me for the love, and for the fact that I decided to leave. I don't know how I did it myself.
“With you, I was the happiest woman in the world. I remember everything about you. I won't forget everything we've been through together. It so happened that we had to part. There is no need to think that something in you has ceased to suit me: you, as before, are perfect. Too perfect for me. You are beautiful.
But we can't be together. Our paths decided to part. I calm myself only by saying that everything that is done is done for the better. Just have to wait for the best. In general, my best thing is my children. Thanks to fate,.
Forgive me for the love, and for the fact that I decided to leave. I don't know how I did it myself. And don't fight with your mom because of me: she wants you to meet the most wonderful woman on the planet. You know it's not me. , I don't know how to cook and manage money. I'm far from the most wonderful. Besides, I demanded too many flowers and gifts from you, without thinking that it costs money. I talk a lot and do little, constantly trying to re-educate you.
I am writing to you not to restore our relationship, but to express my gratitude. Thank you for everything you have done for me. For your care, patience and understanding. You are the most kind, sincere and fair man in the world. Thank you for the happiness and pleasure that you gave me, apparently out of pity. Thank you for your daughter, who will sometimes remind me of you. I'm sorry I couldn't answer the same.
Think about me…. But think all the bad things in order to be disappointed sooner. I don't want you to suffer. I don't deserve it. As, in general, and any other.
Darling, we're just unlucky. We can't be together. But they were together in the past. So let's try to protect him. I appreciate all the moments and minutes that we spent together. Do you appreciate them? Then forgive me and let go. But not to hate me. hate is too much strong feeling. Don't test it on me: I'm not worthy.
You'll be happy. Just be optimistic. And do not consider it a betrayal that I am not with you now. I did it on purpose so that you would learn to be disappointed in me. Please forgive me. But I can't be with you knowing how annoying your mother is. Unfortunately, parents are not chosen. Respect your mom. As always, love her. She has spent her whole life with you. And I am your happy accident, which, by an unfortunate coincidence, did not please your mother. It happens. I do not wish you harm, I do not curse It is foolish to compare love for a mother and love for a wife and child. Yes, I do not want you to compare these two feelings. There is no point in comparison. I am leaving your life so that another one comes into it, one that your mother will really like, whom she can love like her own daughter.
Are you surprised? Nothing surprising. I just want, I dream that you are the happiest. If I am with you, happiness will move aside, because, always, between us and our love, there will be your mother. And you know it."
I finally realized how hard it was for you to be with me. Thank you for treating me so well despite everything. But don't pity me anymore. Soon I will learn everything myself.
I have one last request to you: do not call me even on business. You don't need to reply to this email either. If you need anything just text me.
They say that time heals. I find it hard to believe now, but I can handle it. I wish you happiness.
Catherine

We present to your attention an excerpt from a letter that a wife with autism wrote to her husband.

“When I was diagnosed with autism, I was surprised and scared that from now on everything will change between us. But you just smiled and said that you always knew about the incredible features of my mind, and this is just another confirmation. I immediately relaxed, because I knew that the best meaning was invested in these words.

Infinite Gratitude

Thank you for being encouraging all the time and I believe there is really nothing wrong with me. Thank you for all the sweet little things that keep our relationship going: big hugs, candor, and great morning coffee with one scoop of cinnamon. Thank you for parking your car in the same place every time, even if it's not very convenient. And I thank you endlessly for listening carefully to my monologue about dragonflies.

When I clung to your arm in fear and stopped abruptly in the middle of a busy sidewalk, you cheered me up and led me to the other side of the street, all the while holding me so close as if our bodies were extensions of each other.

Thank you for looking at me even when I am confused and do not know how to perceive myself. Your love keeps me from falling to the floor in the long line at the grocery checkout as you gently hug and rock gently from side to side like a baby.

Thank you for always offering to eat, drink or go outside to breathe fresh air. Thank you for being patient and reminding us of the consistency of our weekend plans, even if this is the hundredth time I've asked this.

Not an ordinary woman

When I was mad at myself because I knew I couldn't live up to the norms perfect woman, I can not be as well-mannered as others, as affectionate and romantic, you said that we should not love each other like everyone else. At that moment, I silently cried, experiencing sweet pain in my chest. Then I could not find a single word to describe all my feelings, they were so strong. At that moment I realized - you love me absolutely, and this is the greatest blessing that one could dream of.

Thank you for not making any demands on me or forcing me to pretend. You never take it personally if I don't understand your joke. You give in to my desires and watch another dull foreign movie with subtitles with me. Although I know about your preferences and passion for the latest megablogbusters.

Words of gratitude and love

Once, clinging to your chest, I found that your hollow perfectly fits the outlines of my head. At that moment, you clasped your hands around my body and softly whispered that you love, buried in my hair. I sent you a confession back, but I think you figured it out true sense these simple words. Your wife has found her safe and warm place, a refuge from all the troubles in your heart. You give me happiness and hope. And the least I can give you in return is mine. inner world. Hold it, it's yours..."