Seduced, but not abandoned. How did the fate of Valya Isaeva’s young mother turn out?

This news once shocked the whole country. In 2005, it became known: an 11-year-old schoolgirl from the Moscow industrial district of Kapotnya, Valya Isaeva, was pregnant by a 19-year-old guest worker from Tajikistan, Khabib Patakhonov.

The youngest mother in Russia

Let us remind you: Khabib came to Moscow to earn money. He began to rent a room in the apartment of Valya’s grandmother, 50-year-old Antonina Aleksandrovna Zenkina. The grandmother, however, is not her own; she is the mother of Valya’s stepfather. The girl grew up an orphan: Valya’s mother abandoned the child shortly after her birth and disappeared. My stepfather became an alcoholic and died. When the first man, a guest worker, appeared in the house, the third-grader reached out to him.

The grandmother insisted that she had no idea what Khabib and the young schoolgirl were doing when they locked themselves in the room. But one day the girl began to find out from adults: is it possible to get pregnant at 11 years old? And soon Vali’s rounded tummy eloquently explained the reason for her curiosity.

The gynecologists who examined the girl were shocked. Valya insisted that she wanted a child and loved her “Vladik,” as she called Khabib. The story caused a storm in society, dividing it into two camps. Some condemned Khabib. Others came to the couple's defense.

Valya had a caesarean section. The girl was born 50 centimeters tall and weighing 2900 grams, she was named Amina.

Antonina Zenkina took care of the baby: the 11-year-old mother had to return to school. And the baby’s father was awaiting trial for having sex with a minor. Khabib swore that he was ready to get married. As a result, under enormous public pressure, the court gave him only three years probation. And he decided that Patakhonov should live separately from Valya until she reaches adulthood.

Later, Valya admitted that she and her grandmother hid Khabib in their apartment. And she and Patakhonov continued to live as wife and husband.

Fist fights

In 2007, it became clear: “Romeo” is beating his “Juliet”! A friend of Valya’s grandmother claimed that she once saw Habib destroy a sink with the girl’s body. And another time he kicked his beloved, and she writhed on the floor.

There was no one to protect Valya (she was 14 years old at the time). The grandmother waved it off, saying, don’t interfere: the young people will sort it out on their own, if they quarrel, they will make up. And when the young mother was invited to television, in the studio she nervously hugged Khabib and shouted: “No, he doesn’t beat me, it’s not true! We love each other!"

On a talk show, the groom got down on his knee: “Valya, become my wife.” They say that the TV crew paid him separately for this beautiful gesture.

The wedding was noisy. Khabib boasted that one of the TV channels paid for their celebration in a restaurant...

After graduating from ninth grade, the youngest mother in Russia went to college and received a degree in management. In 2013, she gave birth to her second child, son Amir, from her husband.

Khabib was happy about the birth of an heir. Meanwhile, Amina’s daughter went to school. Helped my mother manage her little brother. Over the years, the hype around Romeo and Juliet has died down. And suddenly…

New lover

Recently, the same “Juliet” - Valya Isaeva - appeared on the television screen again. No longer a skinny girl, but a 24-year-old woman with appetizing curves. But Khabib - the same "Romeo" - has hardly changed, he looks much younger than his age.

At the show, Valya introduced the audience... to her lover. A tall, red-haired young man (a head taller than Khabib) entered the studio with a bouquet of flowers for Valya. Khabib naturally freaked out - not in public. "I am Muslim! I can’t do this!” He boiled over and attacked his opponent from behind - jumping up and hitting him on the back of the head.

— After recording the program behind the scenes, Khabib was very aggressive and threatened. We warned him that it was in his interests to behave quietly.

As it turned out, the couple made money from the divorce: the heroes did not come to the studio for free. Everyone received their fee. In total - 250 thousand rubles.

“We haven’t had a family for two years now”

We called Valya for clarification: is what the audience saw true?

— Valentina, have you and Khabib not lived together for a long time?

- Yes, two years. I have had another man for a year and a half now.

Why haven’t you confessed to your husband all this time?

- There was no point. And he wasn't very interested in me. Lately, each of us has been living our own lives. All Khabib needed from me was for me to give him Russian citizenship... He either disappeared, or sometimes came only to spend the night. And I realized that I needed to finally set the record straight. What happened, happened.

— For some time you hid from Khabib’s revenge with your girlfriend. Where do you live now?

- At home, with grandma. But we will soon leave - to my boyfriend in Kabardino-Balkaria (Valentina’s new chosen one, Viktor Popov, is a mechanic from Nalchik. - Ed.). He only comes to Moscow to work. We will leave with the children, at least for a while, so as not to escalate the situation. I filed for divorce. Khabib doesn’t want to give it to me, but the lawyers said that we will still be divorced in court.

— Are the relatives of your chosen one, Victor, ready to receive you?

- Yes. He is a simple Russian guy, and his parents are very nice people. They also speak very highly of me.

- Doesn’t Victor offend you?

- Let him just try! (Laughs.) I don’t think this will happen. I didn’t hear a single rude word addressed to me from him. He loves my children very much. I am definitely confident in this person. And in general, I learned to protect myself. This number won’t work like it did with Khabib!

“You won’t tolerate any more beatings?”

- Of course not!

— Did you put up with Khabib for a long time?

- All 12 years! He beat me for no reason. She said it wrong, she looked wrong. I was jealous. Although I didn’t give a reason. I didn't cheat on him. At the same time, I was told, he ran after the girls...

"Stole a child"

— They say that Khabib, having learned about the other, threatened you with violence and even kidnapped your son? And he told the boy that his mother died...

- Yes. He took his son away and did not allow him to see him for a week. This is what it has come to - kidnapping a child! I wanted to take my son to Tajikistan. But the lawyers said: if, God forbid, you take Amir away, we will put you in jail.

- And now Khabib is threatening you?

- Not now. I got scared. He comes to the children and communicates. But where he lives, what he does, I don’t know and am not interested. I only allow him to come during the day.

-Can’t forgive Khabib?

- No. Only a divorce. He is still trying to persuade me to give him Russian citizenship. But I won't do anything to him. Meaning? He will take the apartment and that’s it...

Valentina herself does not work anywhere yet. At school, her daughter is praised: Amina studies well, it’s clear that her mother works with her a lot.

“My marriage was unsuccessful, it was a rash step,” Valya sums up. - The only good thing Khabib gave me were children. They are the meaning of my life. But only with the birth of my second child did I fully feel what a joy it is to be a mother.

As it turned out, her new chosen one, Viktor Popov, when he met Valya, knew nothing about her past. And when she revealed the truth to him, he was already head over heels in love and did not back down.

“I will take care of Valya and her children,” Victor promised on the Channel One talk show “Let Them Talk.” - I want to pick her up with the children and leave here...

VERBATIM

“He beat me in the car for three hours”

Valya remembers her past with horror.

“In 2015, I got a job in a store and once asked to leave work early,” says Valentina. — Khabib met me at the metro in a car. At this time, my boss called me on my mobile. The question was purely about work. But Khabib heard a man’s voice on the phone and flew up with rage. In attacks of jealousy, he cannot control himself. He beat me in the car for three hours! I was losing consciousness. It seemed like an eternity had passed. I was covered in bruises. And then he locked me at home and didn’t let me out for a week. It became clear: we had to part with him. My “oriental fairy tale” has come to an end...

CALL "ROMEO"

Khabib PATAKHONOV: I will get citizenship and let my wife go

“KP” called Khabib Patakhonov for comments.

— Khabib, they say you are divorcing your wife Valya?

- Already separated.

- Officially?

- No, they are not officially divorced. We separated, but we remain married for now. We agreed with her (Valya - Ed.) that I would completely finish my affairs - I would receive Russian citizenship, and then we would divorce. She gives the go-ahead about this. No problem. Since 2007, I renounced my citizenship - I was a citizen of Tajikistan, although I was Uzbek by nationality.

— Are you living illegally in Moscow now?

- No, it’s legal, I have a residence permit.

— Why couldn’t you get Russian citizenship before?

— There was no official income. I drive a taxi, I have a rental car. And to obtain citizenship, in addition to the Russian language exam, you need a certificate of income. And now I will have a simplified form of obtaining citizenship.

I have been married for over five years. My wife is Russian, and two children are registered in my last name...

— Is Valya living with another man now?

- No. She is at home with the children.

— After the divorce, will the children stay with their mother?

- Maybe…

- How did you feel about the fact that she had someone else?

- I don’t want to discuss this.

- Did you beat Valya?

- Please don't bother me anymore!

The heroes of the new episode of the program “Actually” are Valentina Isaeva and Khabib Patakhonov. About six months ago the couple broke up. A young woman who gave birth at the age of 11 accused her husband of raising his hand against her. She went to her lover Viktor Popov. Valya claimed that she met with him in secret from Khabib for a long time.

However, in Dmitry Shepelev’s program, Isaeva decided to ask Patakhonov for forgiveness. He came to the studio with a statement: the guy was ready to divorce his young woman.

“I won’t give him any divorce. Let him not even hope for it,” Valentina responded.

Isaeva decided to prove that she had never cheated on her husband. “I realized all my mistakes, that I did the wrong thing, we have children, they need a father,” the woman said. Khabib is not ready to forgive her; he remembers how he suffered when his wife left.

Previously, Valentina was going to leave Moscow with Popov and go to Kabardino-Balkaria. But after some time, Isaeva broke up with her chosen one, returned home, and then decided to go to work.

Experts believe that Patakhonov and Isaeva are lying in the studio. According to Valentina, Khabib helps her with the children, and also stopped raising his hand to her. Her husband confirmed that he plans to marry another girl. Experts have found out: Patakhonov is telling the truth, but he wants to commit this act to spite her.

Valentina continues to insist that Khabib cheated on his wife. Last time his betrayal was proven.

After filming the talk show “Let Them Talk,” where Valentina introduced Victor to the children, she disappeared. A guy met a girl on the Internet. A few weeks later they met in real life. According to him, the young woman claimed that she was going through a divorce. Popov was ready to marry her.

“We met in different places, in hotels,” says Vali’s former lover.

Isaeva sought protection from Victor, but in fact did not intend to get married. Experts found out that the young man was lying when answering questions about whether he was going to marry Valya. In addition, Popov’s parents were initially against his relationship with the mother of two children. It also turned out that Victor and Valentina had an intimate relationship.

Experts called on Isaeva and Patakhomov to make peace for the sake of the children. “I can’t forgive this and I don’t want to live with this girl anymore,” Khabib noted.

The man is getting married. Patakhomov’s bride appeared in the studio. He announced his search for a new girl after filming the last program. Khabib asked his mother to find him a chosen one, a “home” girl. Her name is Zarina. They have never met in person. Isaeva claims that Khabib consulted with her about how he would live with his chosen one.

Zarina started making trouble as soon as she appeared in the studio. She started saying that Habib is her Islamic husband. Valya started screaming at both her husband and his bride.

“First, explain to your children that you have another wife,” says Isaeva.

Unable to control her emotions, Valentina attacked Zarina with her fists and grabbed her hair. The talk show staff began to separate the women. Isaeva injured her opponent’s nose.

Experts decided that Valya is still fighting for her husband. However, she still has not forgiven Habib for the harm her husband caused her. Expert Roman Ustyuzhanin also asked a question about Isaeva’s infidelities. It turned out that she had other men - besides Khabib and Victor.

“I will make sure that everything changes,” Isaeva answered the pleas of those present in the studio.

Many people are now outraged by the attitude of officials, called upon by law to protect the rights of minor citizens, to the situation with Kheda Gailabieva. However, the Russian authorities clearly demonstrated their position regarding boats with minors (and how legislation in the field of protecting their rights looks in practice) ten years ago in one very significant case.
In May 2005, everyone was hearing about the story of the seduction of an 11-year-old girl by a 19-year-old man. Minor Valya Isaeva was admitted to the Family Planning Center with a threat of miscarriage and kidney problems straight from a lesson at school. The girl was 30 weeks pregnant. As the doctors said, “she is not ready for childbirth, either physically or psychologically. The child’s body does not tolerate pregnancy well, the kidneys refuse to work, and she often cries.”

It quickly became clear that the father was a citizen of Tajikistan, Khabibula Patakhonov, who rented a room from Valya’s guardian. The grandmother insisted that her tenant was only 14 years old and she did not know about their relationship, but it was established that the “minor teenager” was at least nineteen, and the prosecutor’s office opened a criminal case. At the same time, as they say, at the instigation of many officials, a beautiful fairy tale about the modern “Romeo and Juliet” was launched into society, which was actively replicated and supported. Rallies were organized with demands to give the child to the father and leave the family alone. Naturally, no one was stopped by the warnings of some psychologists about the traumatic nature of the so-called “love” of a girl for a rapist and hostage syndrome.
The former Commissioner for Children's Rights of Moscow, Alexei Golovan, immediately demanded to “stop interfering in the life of a minor without the permission of her guardian.” Deputy Alexander Chuev (by the way, one of the developers of the law “On Traditional Religious Organizations in the Russian Federation,” which, although not adopted, marked the trend of admitting religion to education and the media) took the newly created cell of society in the form of a pedophile and his victim under his protection: when two years later, the guardianship authorities and the press began to receive information that Khabib was beating the girl, raping her, demanding that she quit her studies, and living off child benefits and her grandmother’s pension, he promised to make every effort so that those who slandered Valya would the grandmother and father of the child... were held accountable before the law.
The deputy was especially saddened by the fact that, having been deprived of the rapist’s company and not becoming a mother at the age of 11, it would be forever hammered into the girl’s mind that loving, wanting a family, and having a child (and this is exactly what she wanted) is something terrible. unnatural and illegal.

The current Children's Rights Commissioner Pavel Astakhov, at that time a well-known lawyer, also got involved in the case. This is what he later said about this: “I was never this young man’s lawyer, but then, in 2005, when this story happened, I stood up for the guys. They wanted to imprison Valya’s child’s father, and what would happen then? Valya would have given birth, the child would have been sent to an orphanage, what would have happened to Valya is unknown. And so they already lived as a family, and there was no point in taking harsh measures against the guy, especially since at that time the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation had a clause that exempted people from liability for such crimes if people got married. And the other day in the children's world I met Valya Isaeva at the checkout, who told me that everything was fine with them, their second child was born. This is an example of how to resolve conflicts of this kind - not to follow the formal path, but to delve into the situation.” . To complete the picture, we can cite his own statements that “modern Russian youths” reach “psychophysiological maturity” only by the age of 20. Until then, although they are capable of committing various crimes, they cannot yet “fully understand the nature and significance of the actions they commit and direct them.”

And the rapist himself made a lot of efforts to save himself - he changed his last name (and at the same time his date of birth, knocking off a couple of years for himself), told the story about the alleged rape of Valya by some Armenian or Azerbaijani teenagers, from whom he unsuccessfully tried to protect her and, of course , told the court a heartbreaking version that the girl, broken by the previous rape, wanted it and persuaded him: We were both a little drunk. We drank a little champagne. And I decided to give up. After all, virginity is lost anyway. Moreover, I was afraid of offending her.

As a result of all the manipulations, the Russian law on the corruption of minors in court was observed as leniently as possible towards the rapist: the Lublinsky court of Moscow sentenced a 22-year-old ( on that moment) a migrant worker from Tajikistan to a three-year suspended sentence, having found him guilty of seducing an 11-year-old girl who gave birth to a child from him, under Article 134 of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation - “sexual intercourse and other actions of a sexual nature with a person under 16 years of age.” The court considered Patakhonov’s confession and the fact that he does not abandon the child, as well as his willingness to take care of the family, as a mitigating circumstance.

After giving birth, the girl and her daughter were kidnapped by her grandmother and father straight from the maternity hospital. Officially, the father was wanted at that moment, but for some reason the police were “ashamed” to detain him, although he was not hiding. In the maternity hospital, the girl was constantly crying and screaming: “For God’s sake, if that’s what you want, I’ll write a waiver for this child, just let me go to Vladik!” (Russian version of his name), which shocked the lady from the guardianship, who, apparently, was sure that a raped little girl who gave birth to a rapist should magically show “maternal feelings”, and had no idea about the everyday Stockholm syndrome, which childbirth and the presence of a child and a rapist only made it worse.
The Commission on Minors' Affairs and the Protection of Their Rights also did not notice anything unusual in the creation of a family where a child is in contact with a rapist: “Everything is fine in this family, finally, leave them alone! Valyusha studies well, communicates with peers and generally leads a lifestyle appropriate to her age. Antonina Aleksandrovna takes care of her granddaughter: Amina is a beautiful girl, developed, well-groomed. Khabib is working. He helps the Isaev family financially. He visits them strictly at set hours, signed by him in a special agreement. The child’s father strictly complies with the court’s decision, we have no complaints against him. Our representative regularly visits the Isaevs’ apartment.”

How precisely the court's orders were followed can be understood from the words of Valya herself:
- Of course, all these years before the wedding he lived with my grandmother, but we hid him! Well, think for yourself, what kind of money is needed to help me with my child and rent an apartment in Moscow!
— We would go right after the wedding ( to Khabib's parents in Dushanbe), but this was impossible - Khabib needs to obtain so many permits in order to travel outside of Moscow! As a result, we flew to Dushanbe without permission from any official authorities there. They call us the next day: “Congratulations, you are allowed to travel to Tajikistan!” And we laugh: “Thank you, of course, but we’re already there!”

Valya’s classmates also had something to tell about good studies and contacts with peers:
“She was quiet before, she was on her own,” said one of Isaeva’s classmates. - And after giving birth, she seemed to be completely uninterested in us. Since the fifth grade, she was not particularly interested in studies; she was an average student. The teachers stretched her grades and felt sorry for her. She had no friends.

For several years, the girl, her grandmother and the rapist were the heroes of numerous television shows and reports (and adult participants also received monetary compensation and rewards), where many “experts” diligently pretended that an 11-year-old girl could “consent” and without loss to physical and mental health to become pregnant, give birth to a child and then spend their lives with the rapist until, with the passage of time, they are forgotten about. Judging by the latest

The story of Russia's youngest mother has been on TV screens for several years now. Many are interested in how the lives of Valentina Isaeva and Khabib Potakhonov turned out. They had to endure many difficulties and go through a lot of trials. It's time to find out how this unusual couple lives now and what is happening in their family life.

Crime and Punishment

18-year-old Khabib rented a room in Valya’s grandmother’s apartment and was often left alone with the girl. At 11 years old, she had not yet given an account of her actions, and she simply did not know what could happen after physical contact with a man. The girl found out about her pregnancy when she was already seven months old. Then the hospital sent information to the police. It was not difficult to find the culprit, and soon Habib faced a real sentence for seducing and molesting a minor. The couple quickly reacted and began going on all television channels and telling their love story. The public believed Valentina Isaeva and Khabib Potakhonov, respected people sided with the young lovers. The guy was given three years' probation and prohibited from living in the same area as his future mother.

Shakespearean passions

Valya gave birth to a healthy girl, who was named Amina. The grandmother had to help her granddaughter escape from the maternity hospital along with her newborn baby. The guardianship authorities categorically refused to give the child to the eleven-year-old mother. And again, lawyers, psychologists and famous artists stood up for the young parents. Valya and Khabib were left alone and disappeared from the media's radar for several years. From time to time they were invited to various programs, but interest in their story has long faded. After 4 years, the wedding of Valentina Isaeva and Khabib Potakhonov put an end to the sensational case. There was no noisy, rich celebration - it was celebrated modestly in the restaurant, and no one was particularly interested in this event.

A couple of years later, viewers again watched the young parents - this time they took part in the “Battle of Psychics.” Valentina Isaeva and Khabib Potakhonov wanted to appear on screen once again, but everything did not go according to schedule. Psychics began to tell not the most pleasant facts from their family life, which the couple stubbornly denied. They insisted that there are no conflicts in their family, and Valya is currently expecting her second child. Soon she gave birth to a boy, and again for two years the audience lost sight of this strange couple.

Sad end

At the end of 2017, the whole country listened with bated breath to the real story about the relationship between Valentina and Khabib. The girl expressed everything that she had been carrying in her soul for 12 long years. She openly spoke about the beatings that she had to endure all these years. And the result was a statement that she had someone else and wanted to divorce her tyrant husband. The husband did not think twice and stole his son. Checks and DNA tests to establish paternity, threats and blackmail began. Only after a while Valya was able to take her son, but she could not find a common language with her unloved husband. The divorce process is currently underway. Thus ended a beautiful fairy tale about the love of a young mother and a foreign migrant worker. A few years later, his defenders changed their minds, and many regret that he escaped real criminal punishment.

12 years ago, this story shocked all Russians - an eleven-year-old girl gave birth to an adult man who lived illegally in the country. The whole country followed the development of the plot with bated breath and wondered how the love story of Valya Isaeva and Khabib Potakhonov would end. Many years later, the real truth was revealed, and it was strikingly different from what the young parents told many years ago.

The truth is somewhere near

Everyone remembers the heartbreaking screams of little Valya, who was taken from the maternity hospital by her grandmother. Such emotions are impossible to play. The whole country sympathized with the unfortunate girl, whose daughter the evil social services intended to take away. But not everyone believed in the beautiful fairy tale about first love between a child and a migrant worker. Years passed, and the whole unpleasant underside of this sensational story appeared before amazed people. It turns out that it is not as beautiful as the participants in this drama painted.

How it was

In May 2005, all public attention was focused on Valya Isaeva and Khabib Potakhonov. A fifth-grader was taken straight from a lesson at school to the hospital with a threat of miscarriage. How could a girl who had just turned 11 be 30 weeks pregnant? The investigation quickly traced the criminal - he turned out to be a 22-year-old native of Tajikistan, who rented a room in his grandmother’s apartment. The girl has no parents, and the old woman was officially Valya’s guardian. At that moment, she swore that she knew nothing about what was happening in her living space, and insisted that Habib was only 14 years old.

Such a story could not be ignored, and programs about and an adult man poured out as if from a cornucopia. But no one in them condemned the foreign pedophile, but, on the contrary, called for all possible assistance to this strange couple. The fact that Valya, due to her age and mental development, was not yet able to judge what was happening did not worry anyone. But her tears and screams cut the hearts of adults and smart people. Lawyers, whose names inspired respect, rushed to help the rapist. Psychologists tried to ring the bell, but their indignation was drowned in the general roar of indignation.

From pedophiles to heroes

Taught by experienced lawyers and other “good” people, Habib came to the police to confess. He told a touching story that Valya had already been raped by some Azerbaijanis before him and she herself invited him to have sexual relations. He was afraid to offend her and gave his consent. Although I didn’t want to do this myself. The investigation took into account all aspects of this case and handed down the most lenient sentence - 3 years probation. The court did not allow the young parents to live in the same apartment, which was ignored.

Stockholm syndrome

Valya gave birth to a healthy girl and named her Amina. It is noteworthy that the child was supposed to be taken to an orphanage. The young mother, in the presence of social service workers, screamed that she was ready to give up her child if they left her Habib alone and let them be together. At the time it was perceived as postpartum psychosis. No one saw anything strange in the little girl’s behavior, although all the symptoms of Stockholm syndrome were evident. With the help of her grandmother, she managed to escape, and no one dared to take the child away.

How a fairy tale became a nightmare

Several years passed, and soon the wedding of Valya Isaeva and Khabib Potakhonov again made them heroes of several television shows. All the same guests in the studios rejoiced at their happiness and wished them many years of marriage. The heroes themselves looked happy and talked about their prosperous lives. And in 2014, the girl gives birth to her second child - a boy. Together with their husband, they become frequent guests on programs where they discuss stories about young mothers and their difficult struggle with the law. By their example, they prove that all ages are submissive to love. The children of Valya Isaeva and Khabib Potakhonov become the best proof of this expression.

But in 2017, after 12 years of marriage, a girl talks about how she actually lived under the same roof with a rapist. The truth, objectionable to all defenders of such love, was revealed - Khabib beat and raped his victim all these years. He refused to work, and they lived on child benefits and grandmother’s earnings. Valya herself worked in a store, but her husband was jealous of everyone and took out all his anger on her body. The girl's patience came to an end, and she left him for another. Scandalous lie detector revelations and DNA paternity tests followed. Now photos of Valya Isaeva and Khabib Potakhonov appear only in connection with another scandal. Thus ended the beautiful fairy tale about a pedophile and his young victim.